Resilience is not a personality trait you are born with. It is a skill you build through practice, and the practice is never comfortable. My understanding of resilience started on commercial rooftops in Milwaukee winters and deepened through personal losses that most leadership content never addresses. Losing my mother to suicide at 20 months old. Navigating the end of a business partnership that threatened everything I had built. Walking into a new leadership role and discovering operational problems that the previous team had hidden. Each of these experiences forced me to rebuild something, and each one taught me that resilience is less about toughness and more about honest assessment followed by forward motion.
The posts in this category explore resilience from multiple angles. Physical resilience from years of construction work. Professional resilience from scaling businesses through economic downturns and leadership transitions. Personal resilience from carrying grief for decades before finally addressing it. Each dimension taught me something the others did not, and together they formed a framework for handling difficulty that I use every day.
I write about the mechanics of bouncing back. How do you assess what is actually broken versus what just feels broken? How do you make decisions when your emotional state is compromised? How do you maintain leadership credibility when your team knows you are going through something hard? When is pushing through the right move, and when does pushing through become avoidance disguised as determination? These are not theoretical questions. They are questions I have answered wrong before answering them right.
If you are going through adversity right now, whether it is personal, professional, or both, these articles are written by someone who understands that the path through difficulty is rarely straight and never clean. The goal is not to inspire you with a redemption story. It is to share what I have learned about the actual work of resilience so you can apply it to whatever you are facing. Resilience compounds over a career. Every hard thing you survive makes the next hard thing slightly more manageable. That is the most valuable lesson construction, grief, and leadership have taught me.
I helped build a roofing company to $35M in revenue and 180 employees. Then I walked away. Here is what leaving a business you built actually looks like, and what it taught me about partnerships and starting over.
I helped grow a roofing company to $35M in revenue with 180 employees, then resigned due to a breakdown in the partnership. Here is what the experience taught me about partnerships, identity, and knowing when to go.
Imposter syndrome ran my decisions for years, from boardrooms to political campaigns. The shift came when I stopped managing the fear and started ignoring its advice.
A phone call from my daughter changed how I show up as a father. Co-parenting three kids taught me that balance is a myth. Honest presence is what matters.
The question I get asked most: why share your mother’s death on stage? Because silence helped nobody. Every talk, someone shares their own story for the first time.
The real questions don’t come during the Q&A. They come in the hallway afterward, when people ask how to handle what they’re carrying. After hundreds of talks on resilience, the same themes keep surfacing: people want permission to be honest.
At 25, I started a roofing company with more confidence than cash. Here is what I wish someone had told me about money, people, and knowing when to slow down.
There’s a line between vulnerability and performance, and most speakers don’t know when they’ve crossed it. Sharing trauma on stage is powerful when it serves the audience. It becomes performance when you optimize for their reaction.
I learned about resilience on rooftops in Wisconsin winters, not in conference rooms. Nearly two decades in commercial roofing taught me that real resilience isn’t a mindset. It’s a set of habits built where mistakes cost money and bad calls get someone hurt.
My mother died by suicide when I was 20 months old. I didn’t talk about it for 36 years. During that time I built companies and managed hundreds of employees, making every leadership decision with unprocessed grief running in the background.
My mother Joyce died by suicide with a gun when I was 20 months old. I didn’t talk about it for 36 years. Not because I forgot. You don’t forget a thing like that. You just learn to build a life around the gap where the story should be. You learn which questions to dodge,…
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